Finding Female Orgasm – What You Need to Know About It
Female orgasm is an umbrella term that covers all different orgasm types that women can experience.
Unlike male orgasm, the female counterpart has a bad rep for being hard to achieve. If you want to up your orgasm game and either help yourself or your partner have stronger and more regular orgasms, then this Flure’s guide is what you need.
Today we’re covering what a female orgasm is and what it entails, how to reach orgasms, what happens to the female body during an orgasm, what G-spot and female ejaculation are, and so much more.
What is a Female Orgasm?
Female orgasm, at its core, is the same as male orgasm. It’s the peak of sexual arousal and a direct response to stimulation of erogenous zones.
Female Ejaculation
Female ejaculation is like a mythical creature. Some people whisper about it, but a few have actually seen it or believe to have experienced it.
It is very real though, but it doesn’t happen to many women out there, and also some women don’t realize that this is what their body is doing when it happens. It’s rather subtle, unlike squirting which is also a completely different thing.
Female ejaculation is a result of G-spot stimulation that manifests in the form of fluid that comes out of the urethra. This can happen together or separately from an orgasm, and it’s a fluid that’s rather mild in terms of smell, taste or the amount of it that comes out.
Everything that Happens to the Woman When She Orgasms
When a woman orgasms, she feels incredibly good, and that is a result of several bodily processes.
- Increased heart rate and faster breathing.
- Blushing from all the blood flowing, and a rise in blood pressure.
- Muscle contractions in the vagina, uterus, and the pelvic areas.
- The intense arousal followed by a release of tension from all the sexual stimulation.
- A surge of good hormones, such as dopamine and oxytocin.
The Types of Female Orgasms
You won’t find two female orgasms that are the same. Each orgasm is unique in terms of how long it lasts, how intense it is, and also the type of orgasm the woman has.
There are several main types of orgasms, and some women are blessed to get a blended mix of orgasms all in one go.
- Clitoral orgasm is achieved through clitoris stimulation. With thousands of nerve endings, clitoral orgasm is very intense. It’s an external type of orgasm that most women can experience.
- Vaginal orgasm is a bit more complex. It’s internal and happens if you stimulate the G-spot or other deeper areas in the vagina. Compared to clitoral, vaginal orgasm is believed to be a stronger sensation that’s taking over your entire body.
- Cervical orgasm is triggered by, you guessed it, stimulation of the cervix which is the lower part of the uterus. This is the ultimate orgasm that is more intense and longer than other types. It is, unfortunately, pretty hard to achieve because it requires a mix of deep penetration, real relaxation, and intense arousal.
How is Female Orgasm Different from Male Orgasm?
Orgasm is an orgasm, right? After all, it’s the same peak pleasure that’s achieved through stimulation during sex or masturbation.
Still, female and male anatomies are very different, and female and male orgasms are different too.
- The duration of a male orgasm is usually a few seconds, whereas a female orgasm can take up to a minute (lucky ladies!).
- Once orgasm happens, men need time to rest and regroup, while women can have multiple orgasms in a row without breaking the sexual act.
- When men orgasm, they ejaculate. While female ejaculation also exists, it’s relatively rare plus it doesn’t always happen alongside the orgasm.
- Women can have clitoral, vaginal, or cervical orgasms or a mix of the three. Men mostly have penile orgasms but can also have a peak sensation from a prostate massage.
In terms of hormones, both women and men get to benefit from a wealth of feel-good hormones released that facilitate relaxation, continued pleasure, and help them bond with their partner emotionally.
Where is the G-spot?
The G-spot is a super sensitive area inside the vagina that sits roughly 1-2 inches inside the vagina. It has many nerve endings so stimulating it leads to intense pleasure, stronger orgasms, and even female ejaculation.
The Orgasm Gap
When men have sex, they reach an orgasm every time, and if they don’t – that’s an event that is noticeable because it’s not supposed to be like that.
The situation is drastically different for women. Unlike men, many women have sex and don’t end up orgasming, and some have never experienced it with their sex partners, only by themselves when masturbating.
This happens for a number of reasons:
- They need more time to orgasm, and sex often ends before they can get close to the point O.
- They’re unable to get vaginal orgasm and don’t get enough clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex.
- They feel uncomfortable or not fully relaxed in bed with the man, so they can’t get to orgasm.
The difference between how much men and women orgasm on average is called an orgasm gap. The disparity is drastic, but it can be reduced if the male part of the world population pays more attention to women’s pleasure and prioritizes satisfying them alongside orgasming themselves.
Tips for Female Orgasm
The number one thing that you should try if you haven’t already, is engaging more erogenous zones in the sex play. Women don’t just orgasm from vaginal or clitoral stimulation. Or should we say, the power of their orgasm and how good they feel during the intercourse, in general, depends on how well she’s stimulated and how balanced out it is around her body.
That’s why you should try engaging more zones and see how your lady likes it. Start with nipples as they’re one of the main erogenous zones with so many nerve endings. Playing with them will leave nobody indifferent. Some women report having orgasms purely from nipple stimulation, although it’s not very common.
If you’re more adventurous and your partner is consenting to it as well, go for anal orgasms. You don’t have to be a man to enjoy anal stimulation, especially if it’s stimulated gently. Whether the anus will be played with by the penis or the fingers, make sure to apply a generous amount of lube as this body area doesn’t self-lubricate naturally. Pick the pace that’s comfortable for both of you and experiment with circular and in-and-out motions.
If you’re not up for experimental zones yet, that’s okay! There’s so much that can be done with the classic there (clitoral, vaginal, and cervical orgasms). Here are the tips for better female orgasms that any woman would appreciate implementing.
- Foreplay is your secret weapon. Most women won’t be able to have an orgasm if you simply jump the gun and start having sex with them without or with just a tiny bit of foreplay. Female arousal takes time, so pace yourself and start by kissing, touching, whispering dirty things, and massaging them to relax completely.
- Don’t forget about the clit! Most women would require some form of clitoral stimulation to orgasm, so don’t forget about it, and come back to it as you move positions and zones you focus on.
- Try roleplaying or other simple kinks. Arousal is a complex matter and sometimes reaching a female orgasm requires you to be creative and do things you don’t normally do. Talk about fantasies and sexual desires, and implement them in the next sex play if you both don’t mind it. Doing something crazy and brand new is not only a great way to get new sensations but also a powerful bonding moment for your couple.
- Don’t stick to what you know and change the positions. It’s shocking what a new angle can do to the familiar movement. You can be a slight shift away from the strongest sensations of your life.
- Use lubrication even if there’s no problem with natural lubrication. Just a bit of extra lube will reduce friction and help make sensations stronger.
- Add toys to the mix. Sex toys are fun and they can add to the experience. Even if they don’t end up giving you or your partner an orgasm, they’ll create a new sensation and help reach areas where fingers and penises can’t reach or do it differently.
Besides those tips, make sure to prioritize relaxation, pleasure, and communication. Orgasm is not only a physical reaction but an emotional phenomenon too. Keeping your sexual adventures pleasant and watching out for each other’s comfort are the necessary elements of orgasming success.
Kegel, Kegel, Kegel
Strong pelvic muscles can make orgasms stronger and better. That’s why it’s important to do kegel exercises.
- Enhance blood flow
- Improve muscle control
- Lead to higher-intensity orgasms
- Enhanced arousal
- Helps achieve different types of orgasms
As a side bonus, doing kegel exercises and strengthening pelvic muscles will improve bladder control.
