Where is the Male G-Spot and How to Work It 

If you’re not sure what a male G-spot is, how to find it, and what to do with it once it’s located, keep on reading Flure’s beginner guide to male G-spot. 

What is a Male G-Spot and where is it?

The male G-spot is essentially the prostate.

The prostate is a small gland that can be found right in front of the rectum and just under the bladder. It has a lot of nerve endings, and it’s very sensitive to the touch. 

Because the male G-spot is located in front of the rectum, you can stimulate it internally or by applying gentle pressure to the area between the anus and the scrotum (a small piece of skin right above the penis where testicles are located). 

What Does Male G-Spot Stimulation Feel Like?

The stimulation of a male G-spot feels amazing and it results in strong orgasms that are different from penile orgasms and are often considered stronger and more intense.  

While each man will have a slightly different sensation, there is a pattern in how they’re all going to experience it. 

Here is how it’s usually described.

• Longer than penile orgasms
• Full-bodied pleasure that is released over you gradually 
• The tingling spreads over the spine and lower abdomen
• Pleasure mixed with intense but good-feeling pressure
• Stronger-than-usually erection

Tips to Stimulating Your or Your Male Partner’s G-Spot

Prostate stimulation is something you should do at least several times before you can confidently say whether it’s for you or not.

It will take time to:

1. Learn the techniques 
2. Find the rhythm 
3. Forget the silly stigmas and stereotypes
4. Be able to relax fully to enjoy it 

There’s a lot of shame, guilt, and awkwardness surrounding this poor body area that somehow turned into the villain that everyone stays clear of. 

So, if you want to explore your prostate and have a wonderful time, here are the tips to do it alone to yourself, have somebody help you out, or treat your lover.

• If you’re not going for the solo session but trying it out with your partner, start by having a talk with them. Discuss the idea, see how comfortable they would be with trying the internal or external stimulation, and try to establish trust around the topic. 
• Explore different positions. Start with beginner-friendly ones, i.e., positions that won’t be too complex or too awkward. Also, note that different positions create different sensations, so do your research and be prepared to switch things up for different angles of pleasure. 
• Stock up on lube. Go for water-based or silicone-based lubrication and use generous amounts.  
• Begin with external stimulation. Massaging the prostate from the outside will feel less invasive, and it’s a good way to start. Once you relax into the process and get used to it, move on to internal stimulation. Or, if you’re adventurous and open-minded, skip the external stimulation and try the other one right away. If you do that, though, make sure you’re gentle and slow at first. 
• Consider dental dams, condoms, or latex gloves if you’re thinking of internal stimulation. It’s not about being squeamish, but there’s going to be small bits of poop and bacteria in the anal zone. That’s just how it is, so if you want to keep things hygienic and not spread bacteria all over, additional layers of protection will be useful. 
• Mix and match with other types of sexual pleasure, such as oral sex, playing with other erogenous zones, kissing, touching, etc. Let one hand do the main job and the second target other parts of the body. 
• Watch out for your or your lover’s body language. If you think they’re tense and uncomfortable, change what you’re doing or pause and ask them. If you don’t like something that’s happening, don’t be afraid to voice it gently and lead your partner to help them please you. 
• Don’t shy away from toys. Prostate stimulation is not rocket science, but sometimes manual labor is not as fruitful. Engaging additional toys and tools to help stimulate the prostate will make it more fun. 

Playing with G-spot can lead to an orgasm but it can also be a part of the play and simply one of the things you do to intensify the pleasure and have a bit of adventurous spirit in the bedroom.

Here are a few more tips around the logistics to reduce friction.

• Get rid of long nails and do a quick manicure if you can, so everything’s smooth. 
• Prepare wipes, warm wet towels, and a blanket, and use them after you’re done to clean up and cozy up without having to take a bathroom break. 
• Take a shower before you engage in sexy time.
• Go to the toilet too, as prostate stimulation can make you want to pee or poop, and, well, it’s best if you take care of it beforehand.  
• Start with a gentle massage of the body to set the mood and help them relax. 

Ps – if you tried and no magic happened, don’t give up or get upset, experiment and change things up:

• Switch positions
• Lube it up
• Spend more time on foreplay 
• Change up the sex toys 

Why Every Man Should Try Male G-Spot Stimulation

You have a prostate, you have the freedom to do with it what you will, so why not play with your male G-spot?

Here are all the good things you can expect from male G-spot stimulation. 

• It makes your prostate healthier. Prostate stimulation is actually really good for men. There are many potential health issues that can come from neglecting the prostate, and regular stimulations of the area help improve blood circulation and urinary function and help with prostatitis symptoms. 
• It will make your orgasms more memorable. If a man has never tried getting an orgasm from prostate stimulation, they’re up for a ride! Not only does it feel different from penile orgasm, but it’s also stronger (most of the time). 
• Hands-free orgasms. Not only will your orgasms most likely be stronger, but they’re also going to be hands-free if you don’t hold your pipi during the prostate stimulation. That’s a completely new feeling for the majority of men who require rhythmic motions and pressure to reach an orgasm outside of penetrative sex.
• Exploring your sexuality. So often sexual intimacy is reduced to familiar things that we’ve been doing over and over for years. Playing with your prostate will keep things fresh in the bedroom, get you closer to your partner, and help you understand your body and the types of pleasure you can have better. 

As a side bonus to all the pleasure and great orgasms that you’ll be getting, enjoying some G-spot action will be your way of breaking taboos and stereotypes around the prostate. Toxic masculinity and dated perceptions of what a man should or shouldn’t do need to go. The more open-minded we all are, and the more first-hand experience we get, the better advocates for change we’re going to be.

The Controversy with Male G-Spot

Even though male G-spot is literally the part of the male body and the source of strong and full-bodied orgasms, it’s severely underutilized in sex with men. 

Why?

There are a number of reasons, and all of them are made up.

Although the prostate is a part of the body and is, therefore, a perfectly natural part of the man that can and should be played with, it was (and still is) considered something that only queer people engage with.

Pair this with all the stigmatization of homosexuality and queerness in society, and you get a recipe for a disaster. Toxic masculinity played a role here as well. Somehow it’s not manly for men to stimulate the prostate, and they should reach an orgasm from penetration, oral sex, or masturbation. Stimulating anything additionally, besides the balls, is considered unacceptable in some circles. 

Also, many don’t really know what male G-spot is, and they’re simply against it without diving deeper into the topic. They’ve heard what others say about it, and they don’t want to be called gay. 

So even though you can stimulate the prostate externally without going into the anus, it is still a taboo and not a topic of discussion for a lot of people. 

Things are slowly beginning to change, largely thanks to the internet and social media which is helping people learn about all sorts of things anonymously, but also exposes people from very different backgrounds, lifestyles, and sexual preferences.

Still, there is a long way to go, but at some point, male G-spot will be destigmatized, and more men will be able to openly enjoy it and not be afraid to experiment with their partners or alone.